Divorce Is Hard On Kids
There is nothing easy about divorce. It is hard for the
partners, the kids, their pets and their friends.
Children need to be told what is happening, in an age
They may ask specific questions about 'where will I go
to school', 'where will I live', 'where will dad or
Most children will wonder, "Did I cause this? Is it my
Just because they do not ask the question doesn't mean
that they are not thinking it. Reassure them.
Infants and toddlers can react negatively with sleep,
toilet training and eating.
Preschoolers may have temper tantrums or problems
getting along with others.
School age children may start wetting the bed. They may
feel depressed, lonely, anxious or even ashamed.
Adults must constantly reassure their children that they
are not to blame for the divorce and they will be safe
and cared for by both parents.
No matter how angry you get, don't tell your children
that you hate your spouse or focus on the bad points.
Your kids are part of that person, and may think that
you are saying you hate them too.
Put the needs and emotions of children first. Do not
expect them to choose sides.
Divorce is hard, but can be a growing experience and an
opportunity for a fresh start on life.